Taking care of children together can be a wonderful experience for a couple. You get to enjoy the pride and love that accompany being parents, not to mention that there are few ways to connect with someone more than creating a human life together. However, it can also involve a lot of stress since children require a lot of energy and need to be provided for at an almost constant rate.
In order to keep your marriage strong sometimes it takes putting in some extra effort. Otherwise, you can start to feel your connection wavering since all of your focus is on the kids. Here are some of the best tips for keeping a balance between being great parents, but also maintaining your strong marriage.
Spend Kid-Free Time Together
Focusing on family time and enjoying special moments as a group together with the parents and children can be a beautiful time. These are moments you will one day miss when your children are all grown up and have left the nest. However, it is also important to spend time together alone without the kids.
This can mean going on a date at least once a week, or even something as simple as having a morning tea together while the kids sleep. Whatever the activity is that you choose to do to connect, make sure that you stay consistent with it and that the kids aren’t with you. Otherwise, your focus can shift from being on each other to being on the kids.
Stay On The Same Team
When your kids come to you and say “Mom said this!” or, “Dad said this!” it can start to pit two parents against each other. Your children should see that you are a team together. Good cop bad cop isn’t good for a relationship since one parent can start to feel resentful towards the other for always being the nice guy.
Working as a team rather than against each other is crucial when it comes to getting the job done as a couple. Remember, working together isn’t only just more peaceful, it’s more fun!
Studies show that couples that laugh together, stay together. Try to keep things lighthearted when you can and remember that even though life can be crazy with kids, you have to try to see the silver lining.
Your lives won’t always be about diapers, puke, and animal crackers. Enjoy that there is joy to be found in anything if you look hard enough.
Take Time For Yourselves Alone
It is important to also take time for yourselves individually. Without individuality, people can become depressed and start to feel a loss of identity. Take time to be alone from your partner from time to time and you will find that your connection is that much stronger.